Our pregnancy was quite an emotional journey. Our firstborn daughter was born sleeping, so we were filled with fear every step of this pregnancy. Having given birth before I felt somewhat prepared for the process, as I grasped any possibility of hope. Our birth this time round went relatively smoothly, although delivery a month early via emergency c-section wasn't quite how I had envisioned my birth plan.
We felt we were quite supported and educated throughout the pregnancy but wow! We didn't realize how isolated, lost and unprepared we were for life with a new born. The emotional ride of having a baby after a loss was intense in itself, but that was soon compounded with a baby who wouldn't feed or sleep and who was constantly inconsolable. We felt completely incapable and incompetent to care for our little girl.
As we later discovered, after numerous trips to the hospital, that the tongue tie release she had done at 3 days old still wasn't enabling her to effectively feed. So we continued to struggle with feeding, her taking on excessive amounts of air, myself in pain trying to breastfeed and her screaming in what we thought was hunger every 45 minutes, while constantly being told breast was best as we waited weeks for our appointment to see a specialist about her tongue.
At breaking point, a pregnant friend shared a book she had been given. BabyCues!! We bought the e-book that night and read it front to back over the following 24 hours, desperate to find something that might help. And instantly Philippa's Natures Wind Sequence (NWS) made sense and gave us small windows of peace.
I cannot describe how grateful we are for discovering Philippa and the world of difference our email and skype sessions made. Philippa was the biggest comfort we needed, more than we knew. She walked through the steps and tools for the NWS, offered support at any time, helped us transition to bottle feeding, enabled us to positively bond with our princess and most importantly empowered us as parents, and reassured us that we could and were doing our best.
As we look back on our journey I can honestly say I don't know if we would be where we are today if it wasn't for Philippa's help and genuine care. I feel there is an incredible gap in postnatal care in our society, and the work Philippa does needs to be more widely recognized and acknowledged.
Our little girl has since had her tongue and lip ties released, and is thriving at life. She has gone from the 5th percentile to the 75th percentile for weight! She is now such a chilled, happy, easy going girl and we are truly enjoying our journey. Thankful doesn't even begin to describe how grateful we are for you Philippa and all your support!
Raewyn and Paul
| Parents to one daughter - New Zealand