Seriously, every midwife needs to give their clients a copy of your book. Either that or it needs to become a government initiative to educate according to your findings!
Your book has saved me!
I'm day two into your recommended feeding and sleep guide with my three month old baby girl. Today her feeding was incredible! And my fast flow issues are already taking a turn (even while my breasts are still regulating to the new feeding patterns).
Seriously, every midwife needs to give their clients a copy of your book and we need everyone to be re-educated about newborns with the help of your fantastic and spot on advice. Either that or it needs to become a government initiative to educate according to your findings!
With our first baby (now 3) as new parents we were told by our midwife (whom we loved and trusted dearly) that newborns didn't need much burping and to feed whenever she needed it.
With both babies (up until two days ago) their 'cues' became more confusing to me as time went on and I couldn't understand why I was struggling to read either baby properly. First time around, at 5 months I ended up spiraling into a stage of post-natal depression, feeling the exact way you described in your book - sleep deprived, stressed and having a baby with Digestive Overload. Except I had not heard of this term, or your way of nurture and care for babies at all. In fact, I followed a Facebook personality called the Milk Meg who's message was along the lines of 'if in doubt, give them boob'. I can now see I was not necessarily 'depressed' but feeling the effects snowball from sleep deprivation and external stressors as well as having an 'unpredictable' baby who actually was struggling with a very full and overloaded stomach. Poor thing.
Second time around, things started to go downhill again and I found myself asking the same questions you asked in your book: if my baby is tired, why is she not sleeping? Why is she giving me tired cues but not going to sleep. Why is she giving me hunger cues but not feeding well. After all the late night googling online with words such as 'baby crying after feeds, baby spewing and spilling a lot, baby very windy 3 months old etc,' I finally mentioned my struggles to the doctor during a vaccinations appointment. She immediately handed me a script for omeprazole and said it sounded like mild reflux. I thought to myself, that was way too quick for her to assess and offer the prescription but I was immensely grateful for the help and supposed solution. That night I googled omeprazole and read how it's basically a temporary fix for symptoms but not fixing the actual cause, and then a quote from your book came up, so I clicked onto your website. Here I am two days later writing you this email :)
Please, please, please can your message and advice get put out to all mums new and multiple times around. This has completely changed my life. I already feel so confident feeding my baby girl and winding her (and wow it's a LOT). My fiancé is already very excited to be able to help more. Up until now I haven't let her out of my sight because I've been concerned she always needed feeding, or that I was the only one who could understand her (when actually I was guessing what she needed by checking the clock and making large assumptions).
I will be buying this book for my second midwife to loan to her clients (she is very open minded and explained to me in the early weeks that colic is more about immature digestive systems than a label). And after reading your book, I am relieved. I am confident my baby doesn't have 'reflux' but indeed was suffering from a massive amount of Digestive Overload due to me frantically feeding to soothe her. We were classic 3rd stage every day, 2nd stage was a 'good' day for us. Hiccups were also constant. I also thought she wasn't interested in the pacifier as she always spat it out, which i now know from your book was because she was always uncomfortable and windy.
From the bottom of my heart- Thank you thank you thank you.
Merryl | New Zealand